Whether you are trying to eat healthier, get stronger, or grow as person, nothing halts a goal faster than perfection.
Here are a few things I’ve learned that helps to break free from the perfection monster. It’s not the definitive guide but it’s a start. Wait, did I just answer the perfection monster in my head with that last sentence?
- This one is my favorite: Give it a persona. I created a perfection monster and it’s a lot of fun to make and then recall this character any time you hear it/him/her in your head telling you you’re not good enough. It’s helpful to realize it’s not your true self to be so critical of everything you do. Isn’t she ugly? Oh and she’s super mean too! No worries, though. I’ve gotten fairly good at recognizing her and am learning to ignore her which makes her go away. She thinks she is strong but she is NOT!
- Having perfectionist tendancies is a sign you are taking things way too personally. It’s not about you and it isn’t you. Focus on who you are trying to help and relax. If you are constantly worried about being criticized, you will be in a tense state. Take a deep breath and then do the thing messy and just enjoy the process without fear of what others will think about your brave start. Which reminds me of the next point.
- Remeber that babies fall down hundreds of times before they learn to walk. You are likely not going to get it right (or perfect) the first time. Get over it and fall down with a smile on your face! Because, I promise, the world needs you helping to make it a better place. So get out there and do it!
That’s all I have! Let me know if any of this is helpful.